I remember way back in my early days of fashion blogging, when Google Friend Connect was a thing, I used to get a little thrill every time I gained a new follower. I also remember the tinge of disappointment when I lost one. The first time this happened, I actually wrote about it. I took it really personally. It made me think about how someone didn't like what I wrote, or what I wore, or possibly even me and decided I wasn't worth following any longer.
That stuck with me.
Later, I was able to forget about it because mostly, those followers were people I didn't know in real life. I figured it had nothing to do with me. It was about my content (and to me, those things were not necessarily one and the same).
So, what happens when someone you actually know 'de-friends' you on Facebook? or 'un-follows' you on Instagram? (And how crazy is it that we live in a world where both those two words exist?)
When I scroll down to see who's following me or who has unfollowed me, I sometimes pause when I recognize a name. It disappoints me a little (sometimes a lot). And then I wonder why?
Maybe I take too many selfies? Maybe I post too much? Maybe my posts are repetitive and boring? Maybe what I share feels trivial when there are so many other real things happening in peoples lives? Maybe no one cares what I wear everyday? Maybe the quality of my pictures needs work? Maybe I pissed you off in real life and now you're calling off all friendship?
Maybe I'm just annoying?
Whatever the reason, these days the unfollow and the unfriend buttons are such a fast, simple click, that pressing them can just be a simple knee jerk reaction (or the resolution of some serious contemplation). The result of that action is complicated, though. Feelings can't simply be pressed on or off as simply and therein lies the conundrum.
Apologies if you don't agree with my ramblings. I guess you can go unfollow me now.