Buddy had school pictures this week, so on Tuesday, we went into Stanley to get his hair trimmed up and ready. What a boy. He still loves his mohawk and asked to have just the sides short yet again. Earlier this week, after Buddy had boarded the bus, one of our neighbours asked us if Michael asks to have his hair cut this way. Joey responded in his usual fashion - telling her that of course we don't make him do it. The only thing he makes Buddy do is brush his teeth and go to bed.
Since then, I've spent the rest of the week thinking about this comment - first with Joey - and by myself. It made me think two things. First, people just do say the weirdest things. And, I know it's not just because we live in this environment - an isolated neighbourhood comprised only of teachers - and it would happen anywhere. It just seems that people talk. And, I can only imagine what they say - so I don't bother to spend too much time worrying.
But second, I've been thinking about the whole make your child do stuff bit. And, I basically came up with this. The only thing I want to make my children do is be confident and brave enough to be themselves. Joey and I both feel this way. I wouldn't want them to be anything other than the dear, sweet and sometimes frustrating beings that they are.
And Ella? Even though she's getting the better of me these days - undoing, untidying, unpacking - you get the picture...she will not let anyone leave the house without giving them at least three hugs. And, she loves her brother. To pieces. She cries if he forgets to give her a hug before hopping on the school bus or if he leaves her upstairs.
Cally? Oh, sweet Cally. Her life is racing before us. She's crawling everywhere. And yesterday, she pulled herself up on a dining room chair to sit by herself. I love that there are times that I'm the only one who can pacify her. I know it's selfish, but I do. My mere presence is enough. How lucky am I? She has the calmest disposition. She's so laid back. And I quote Joey here, she makes me want to have number four.
So, people may ask ridiculous questions. Look, judge or wonder at our lives or our parenting. I know we have people who love us for us. We're planning on staying just the way we are.