Thursday, September 8, 2016

Working Mumma Blues

 Last week reminded me of the importance of balance. And, of how difficult achieving that balance is in the first weeks of a new school year, or heck...anytime! Between struggling to get back into work mode myself and setting up routines at home, I feel exhausted and grumpy and without much energy for anything creative. 


Which is not to say I don't have any ideas, because in fact it's quite the opposite. I'm bursting with them, but I just don't have the time or patience to see those ideas through at the moment. The worst thing is, lack of balance means I'm impatient with the kiddos and with life at home right now. In fact, my lowest moment was this Saturday in the middle of the lunch time scramble when I found myself nitpicking over the smallest details -- what the kids were going to eat. The hubby called me on it and asked if I was happy with life as it was going at that moment, and all I could do was admit that I wasn't. Not at all. I don't like being that unhappy, crabby, naggy person.


It wasn't pretty, but I needed a reminder to choose my battles. Motherhood can feel so isolating at times when day in and day out, time is spent trying to make sure everyone is happy, or being responsible, or eating enough or getting homework done. And mothers seem to get all the questions or problems. Mumma, I need another notebook for language arts, can you buy me one? Mummy, when can you take me to get a haircut? Mummy, I can't undo this button!  The list goes on. And there's no break, not even in the bathroom!

Sometimes it can feel like I'm the only one dealing with it all, which is of course not true. I'm just the one getting asked first, and when they don't do what their supposed to, I'm the only one nagging. And I realized it was getting me down; inevitably I was focusing on the things that weren't done right and trying to fix them rather than taking time to celebrate what was going smoothly.


A good friend of mine from high school who has a super cute baking business must have had a similar moment of frustration last week. She made an honest post on her Instagram about the pressure she was feeling to be everything to everyone, but ultimately making her claim that she's a mum first.  I could totally relate and it reminded me of this post I wrote two years ago where I felt much the same way I am feeling now. Trying to find balance, but struggling because the trying gets hard.


I wanted to write a new post for working mummas because I think we all feel this daily struggle for balance, especially as a new school year starts and routines are new. I felt comforted that my friend had reached out to her followers and made herself vulnerable, but ultimately found support.

It is timely then, that I stumbled onto Hillary Clinton's open letter to working mums. I promise I'm not getting all political, but I really appreciate what Hillary said about working mums because she's absolutely right. 

"Raising a family shouldn’t prevent anyone from furthering their own education, starting a business, or following their dreams."


How amazing would it be to see the first woman president of the United States, a champion for working mums because she is one herself.


Her statements remind me of some fabulous ladies, who I'm blessed to call friends. (See more about my lovely working mumma friends here). Women like Jasmine Smith, creator and designer of her own lingerie line Raven + Rose who gets out there and just does it and follows her dreams, but who also struggles daily with finding balance between work and motherhood. Don't you just love this picture of her working with her little bubba alongside?

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that working mummas, we need to cut ourselves some slack sometimes because it is hard. Remember we're not alone, so let's lean on each other.

***And, the irony of it taking nearly a full week to post this isn't lost on me. I started this post on the weekend when the first line read "this week."

5 comments:

LEIGH RAY said...

I'm not a mumma...yet. But, man can I relate to having a crazy life with little time for anything and trying to balance work and taking care of so much in the home. Its just the worst when nothing feels in order or is balanced just right. Hang in there. "You got this". Loving this look by the way <3

xo
Leigh
www.pinkvintageheart.com

verystef said...

Yes, yes, YES! The constant being torn. The favourite moment of the day when you pick up your lo. And then when they go to sleep. And then when they wake up during the night for a cuddle - and PLEASE fall asleep again quickly! :)

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